UMGANGATHO LUTHANDO
Kutshanje kunxibelelwano lwam kunye noogxa bam, ndifikelele ekuqondeni okungalunganga: umgangatho ngundoqo kuphuhliso lweshishini. Umgangatho ophezulu kunye nexesha elifanelekileyo linokutsala iiodolo ezininzi zabathengi. Esi sisigqibo sokuqala endifikelele kuso.
Inqaku lesibini endifuna ukwabelana nalo wonke umntu libali malunga nenye intsingiselo yomgangatho. Xa ndijonga emva ku-2012, bendiziva ndibhidekile ngalo lonke ixesha kwaye akukho mntu unokundinika impendulo. Nkqu nokufunda nokuphonononga akukwazanga ukusombulula amathandabuzo am angaphakathi. Kwakungekho de ndachitha iintsuku ezingama-30 e-Indiya ngo-Okthobha ka-2012 ngaphandle kokunxibelelana nomnye umntu apho ndafikelela ekuqondeni: yonke into imiselwe kwaye akukho nto ingatshintshwa. Kuba ndandikholelwa kwilishwa, ndayeka ukufunda nokuphonononga kwaye ndandingafuni kuphanda ukuba kutheni kwakhona. Kodwa umhlobo wam akazange avumelane nam, kwaye wandibhatalela ukuba ndiye eklasini kwaye ndifunde "Amandla embewu". Kwiminyaka kamva, ndafumanisa ukuba lo mxholo wawuyinxalenye ye "Diamond Sutra".
Ngelo xesha, olu lwazi ndalubiza ngokuba yi-causality, okuthetha ukuba into oyihlwayelayo yinto oyivunayo. Kodwa nokwazi le nyaniso, kwakusekho amaxesha okuphumelela, uvuyo, unxunguphalo neentlungu ebomini. Xa ndijamelene nezithintelo nobunzima, ngethuku lemvelo ndandifuna ukugxeka abanye okanye ndiphephe uxanduva ngenxa yokuba kwakungakhululeki yaye kubuhlungu, yaye ndandingafuni ukuvuma ukuba oku kwakubangelwa ndim.
Kangangexesha elide, ndawugcina lo mkhwa wokuzigxotha iingxaki xa ndidibana nazo. Kwade kwasekupheleni kuka-2016 xa ndandidinwe emzimbeni nasengqondweni ndaqala ukucinga: ukuba obu bunzima ebomini bubangelwa ndim, ziphi iingxaki zam? Ukususela ngoko, ndaqala ukujonga iingxaki zam, ndicinga ngendlela yokusombulula, kwaye ndizama ukufumana izizathu kunye neendlela zokucinga kwinkqubo yengxaki yokuphendula. Kwandithatha iiveki ezine okokuqala, kodwa kancinci kancinci ukuya kwimizuzu embalwa.
Inkcazo yomgangatho ayingomgangatho weemveliso kuphela, kodwa ibandakanya inkcubeko yeshishini, inqanaba lolawulo, izibonelelo zoqoqosho, kunye neminye imiba. Kwangaxeshanye, uphawu lukwabandakanya izimo zengqondo zobuqu, imilinganiselo neendlela zokucinga. Kuphela ngokusoloko siphucula umgangatho wamashishini kunye nabantu ngabanye esinokuthi siqhubele phambili kwindlela eya empumelelweni.
Ukuba sifunda incwadi ebizwa ngokuba yi "Karma Management" namhlanje, ethi zonke iimeko zethu zangoku zibangelwa yi-karma yethu, sisenokungothuki kakhulu ekuqaleni. Sisenokuziva ngathi sifumene ulwazi oluthile okanye sinombono omtsha, yiloo nto ke. Nangona kunjalo, njengoko siqhubeka sicinga ngamava ethu obomi, siyaqonda ukuba yonke into ngokwenene ibangelwa iingcamango zethu, amazwi kunye nezenzo zethu. Olo hlobo lomothuko alunakuthelekiswa nanto.
Sihlala sicinga ukuba singabantu abalungileyo, kodwa ngenye imini xa siqonda ukuba asilungile, impembelelo ibalulekile. Ukususela ngelo xesha ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, esele iyiminyaka emithandathu okanye esixhenxe, ngalo lonke ixesha ndibona nzulu kwiintsilelo zam neziphazamiso endingafuni kuzivuma, ndiyazi ukuba zazibangelwa ndim. Ndiqiniseke ngakumbi ngalo mthetho we-causality. Enyanisweni, zonke iimeko zethu zangoku zibangelwa iinkolelo zethu okanye ukuziphatha kwethu. Imbewu esayityala kwixesha elidlulileyo ekugqibeleni idubule, kwaye into esiyifumanayo namhlanje sisiphumo esifanele sizifumane thina. Ukusukela ngoJanuwari 2023, andisathandabuzi malunga noku. Ndiva imvakalelo yokuqonda ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukungathandabuzeki.
Ngaphambili, ndandinesithukuthezi esingakuthandiyo ukunxulumana okanye ukuthengiselana ubuso ngobuso. Kodwa emva kokuba ndicacelwe ngumthetho we-causality, ndaqiniseka ukuba akukho mntu kweli hlabathi unokundenzakalisa ngaphandle kokuba ndizenzakalisa. Ndibonakala ndingumntu othanda ukuncokola, ndikulungele ukunxulumana nabantu, kwaye ndisiya kuthengiselana ubuso ngobuso. Ndandinomkhuba wokungayi esibhedlele naxa ndigula kuba ndandisoyika ukunxibelelana noogqirha. Ngoku ndiyaqonda ukuba le yindlela yam yokuzikhusela ukuze ndiphephe ukwenzakaliswa xa ndinxulumana nabantu.
Uye wagula umntanam kulonyaka, ndamsa esibhedlele. Kwakukho nemiba enxulumene nesikolo somntwana wam kunye neenkonzo zokuthenga kwinkampani. Ndandineemvakalelo namava awahlukahlukeneyo kuyo yonke le nkqubo. Sidla ngokuba namava afana nala: xa sibona umntu ongakwaziyo ukuwugqiba umsebenzi ngexesha okanye ongakwaziyo ukuwenza kakuhle, isifuba sethu siyaba buhlungu kwaye siba nomsindo. Kungenxa yokuba senze izithembiso ezininzi malunga nomgangatho kunye nexesha lokuhambisa, kodwa asikwazi ukuzigcina. Kwangaxeshanye, sasithembela kwabanye, kodwa basiva ubuhlungu.
Ngawaphi amava am amakhulu? Kuxa ndathabatha intsapho yakowethu ukuya kubona ugqirha ndaza ndadibana nogqirha ongekho ngcaphepheni owayethetha kakuhle kodwa akazange akwazi ukuyicombulula kwaphela loo ngxaki. Okanye xa umntwana wam esiya esikolweni, sasidibana nabafundisi-ntsapho abangakhathaliyo, nto leyo eyayicaphukisa intsapho yonke. Nangona kunjalo, xa sikhetha ukusebenzisana nabanye, ukuthembela kunye namandla nawo anikezelwa kubo. Xa kuthengwa iinkonzo, ndiye ndadibana nabathengisi okanye iinkampani ezithetha kuphela ezinkulu kodwa azikwazi ukuhambisa.
Ngenxa yokuba ndikholelwa ngokuqinileyo kumthetho we-causality, ekuqaleni ndazamkela iziphumo ezinjalo. Ndaqonda ukuba imele ukuba ibangelwa ngamazwi nezenzo zam, ngoko kwakufuneka ndiyamkele loo miphumo. Kodwa intsapho yakowethu yayinomsindo yaye ivutha ngumsindo, ivakalelwa kukuba yayiphethwe ngokungekho sikweni yaye ibuhlungu gqitha. Ngoko ke, kufuneka ndicamngce nzulu ngakumbi ngeziganeko ezikhokelele kwimiphumo yanamhlanje.
Kule nkqubo, ndifumene ukuba wonke umntu unokucinga kuphela malunga nokwenza imali xa eqala ishishini okanye ephishekela imali, ngaphandle kokuba abe yingcali kuqala ngaphambi kokubonelela ngeenkonzo okanye enze izithembiso kwabanye. Ndandikade ndinje nam. Xa singazi nto, sisenokwenzakalisa abanye abantu ekuhlaleni, yaye sisenokwenzakala nakwabanye. Le yinyani ekufuneka siyamkele kuba zininzi izinto esizenzileyo ezenzakalisa abathengi bethu.
Noko ke, kwixesha elizayo, sinokwenza uhlengahlengiso ukuze singazingeli inkathazo nengozi ngakumbi kuthi nakwabo sibathandayo ngoxa sisukela imali nempumelelo. Lo ngumbono endifuna ukuwabelana nawo wonke umntu malunga nomgangatho.
Kakade ke, imali ibalulekile kumsebenzi wethu kuba asinakuphila ngaphandle kwayo. Noko ke, imali, nangona ibalulekile, asiyonto ibalulekileyo. Ukuba sityala iingxaki ezininzi zekhwalithi kwinkqubo yokwenza imali, ekugqibeleni, thina kunye nabathandekayo bethu siya kuthwala imiphumo kumava ahlukeneyo obomi, okungekho mntu ufuna ukukubona.
Umgangatho ubaluleke kakhulu kuthi. Okokuqala, kunokusizisela ii-odolo ezininzi, kodwa okona kubaluleke ngakumbi, sikwadala nolonwabo olungcono kuthi nakwabo sibathandayo kwixesha elizayo. Xa sithenga iimveliso okanye iinkonzo ezinikelwa ngabanye, sinokufumana iinkonzo ezikumgangatho ophezulu. Esi sesona sizathu siphambili sokuba sigxininise umgangatho. Usukela umgangatho kukuthanda kwethu thina neentsapho zethu. Lukhokelo ekufuneka silulwele sonke kunye.
I-altruism yokugqibela kukuzingca ekugqibeleni. Sisukela umgangatho kungekuphela nje ukuthanda abathengi bethu okanye ukubona ezo odolo, kodwa okona kubaluleke kakhulu, ukuzithanda thina kunye nabo sibathandayo.
